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Why Go to Group (Bipolar Edition)

- Mental illness is lonely. Support groups make them less so.

- Support groups offer a nonjudgmental, supportive atmosphere where bipolar is the norm and not the exception.

- In other words, it’s a place where (1) you don’t have to fake it and (2) people know what you’re talking about. Both are invaluable. \\INVALUABLE//

- Some group members know important shit. Having access to their insights feels like stumbling upon magical lore. I’ve learned an enormous amount about bipolar, coping skills, and resources from them.

- A meeting is a repeating data point, a once-a-week mood and mental state check-in.

- It’s also an anchor point of structure and socialization.

- And being around people with (let’s be honest) varying degrees of motivation to manage their mental illness can help us be more self-aware and less likely to let our own actions derail us.

If you’re looking for a support group, the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) is a good place to start.

Or, message me if you’re rapid cycling and/or bipolar 2 and it’s still 2022.



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